Keep your hands to yourself

If you’ve been hiding under a rock for the past few weeks, you might wonder about the timing of this post, but as regards the second hollow one, there’s a reason the parties and dinners I attend with my neighbors are gender segregated: in addition to our inability to watch our mouths, we humans—especially men, but women too—have great difficulty keeping our pants on, much less keeping our hands to ourselves.

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Watch your Mouth

Abu Musa reported that

رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَىُّ الإِسْلاَمِ أَفْضَلُ قَالَ ‏ “‏ مَنْ سَلِمَ الْمُسْلِمُونَ مِنْ لِسَانِهِ وَيَدِهِ ‏”‏‏

Some people asked Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ), “Whose Islam is the best? i.e. (Who is a very good Muslim)?” He replied, “One who avoids harming the Muslims with his tongue and hands.”

In a hasan (good, but not perfect) hadith in  Jami` at-Tirmidhi, Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri narrates that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said

إِذَا أَصْبَحَ ابْنُ آدَمَ فَإِنَّ الأَعْضَاءَ كُلَّهَا تُكَفِّرُ اللِّسَانَ فَتَقُولُ اتَّقِ اللَّهَ فِينَا فَإِنَّمَا نَحْنُ بِكَ فَإِنِ اسْتَقَمْتَ اسْتَقَمْنَا وَإِنِ اعْوَجَجْتَ اعْوَجَجْنَا

When the son of Adam wakes up in the morning, all of his body parts bow to the tongue and say: ‘Fear Allah regarding us, we are only part of you. If you are straight we are straight and if you are crooked we are crooked.’

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the Two Hollow Ones

Abu Hurairah said

 سُئِلَ النَّبِيُّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏:‏ مَا أَكْثَرُ مَا يُدْخِلُ الْجَنَّةَ قَالَ ‏:‏ ‏”‏ التَّقْوَى وَحُسْنُ الْخُلُقِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ وَسُئِلَ ‏:‏ مَا أَكْثَرُ مَا يُدْخِلُ النَّارَ قَالَ ‏:‏ ‏”‏ الأَجْوَفَانِ ‏:‏ الْفَمُ وَالْفَرْجُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏

“The Prophet (ﷺ) was asked: ‘What most admits people to Paradise?’ He said: ‘Piety  [Taqwa] and good manners.’ And he was asked: ‘What most leads people to Hell?’ He said: ‘The two hollow ones: The mouth and the private parts.’”

May Allah guide us to watch our mouths and speak only good, truthful speech with the best of character, and may He help us to remember Him and fear Him and seek His pleasure rather than our own, Ameen.

shifting focus

Hanzalah Al-Usayyidi, may Allah be pleased with him, reported

لقيني أبو بكر رضي الله عنه فقال‏:‏ كيف أنت يا حنظلة‏؟‏ قلت‏:‏ نافق حنظلة‏؟‏ قلت‏:‏ نافق حنظلة ‍‍‏(‏ قال‏:‏ سبحان الله ما تقول‏؟‏ ‏(‏ قلت‏:‏ نكون عند رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يذكرنا بالجنة والنار كأنا رأي عين، فإذا خرجنا من عند رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم عافسنا الأزواج والأولاد والضيعات نسينا كثيراً‏.‏ قال أبو بكر رضي الله عنه ‏:‏ فوالله إنا لنلقى مثل هذا، فانطلقت أنا وأبو بكر حتى دخلنا على رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم‏.‏ فقلت‏:‏ نافق حنظلة يا رسول الله ‏(‏ فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏:‏ ‏”‏وما ذاك‏؟‏‏”‏ قلت‏:‏ يا رسول الله نكون عندك تذكرنا بالنار والجنة كأنا رأي العين، فإذا خرجنا من عندك عافسنا الأزواج والأولاد والضيعات نسينا كثيراً‏.‏ فقال رسول الله 0‏:‏ ‏”‏والذي نفسي بيده لو تدومون على ما تكونون عندي وفي الذكر لصافحتكم الملائكة على فرشكم وفي طرقكم، ولكن يا حنظلة ساعة وساعة‏”‏ ثلاث مرات،

I met Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) he said: “How are you O Hanzalah?” I said, “Hanzalah has become a hypocrite”. He said, “Far removed is Allah from every imperfection, what are you saying?” I said, “When we are in the company of Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and he reminds us of Hell-fire and Jannah, we feel as if we are seeing them with our very eyes, and when we are away from Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), we attend to our wives, our children, our business, most of these things (pertaining to life hereafter) slip out of our minds.” Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) said, “By Allah, I also experience the same thing”. So Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) and I went to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and I said to him, “O Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), Hanzalah has turned hypocrite.” Thereupon Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “What has happened to you?” I said, “O Messenger of Allah, when we are in your company, and are reminded of Hell-fire and Jannah, we feel as if we are seeing them with our own eyes, but when we go away from you and attend to our wives, children and business, much of these things go out of our minds.” Thereupon Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “By Him in Whose Hand is my life if your state of mind remains the same as it is in my presence and you are always busy in remembrance (of Allah), the angels will shake hands with you in your beds and in your roads; but Hanzalah, time should be devoted (to the worldly affairs) and time should be devoted (to prayer)”. He (the Prophet (ﷺ)) said this thrice.

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Al Wahhab, the Generous Bestower

Among the beautiful names of Allah, Al Wahhab reminds us of the generosity of Allah: we don’t have to ask for the ability to see or hear, to walk, talk, and live, in general. He just bestows these gifts on us, to whatever extent He wills. He didn’t have to send all the Prophets and Messengers, but He did, and He bestowed on them good character, that we may learn by example, and sent down instructions to them, and made clear the halal and the haram, that we may strive to worship Him appropriately and avoid His punishment. Continue reading “Al Wahhab, the Generous Bestower”

Don’t get too comfortable

With my recent reminders on forgiveness and mercy, it’s important to remember: while Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala is Al Ghafur, Ar Raheem, the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful, He is also As Sami, Al Basir, Al Kabeer, the All Hearing, All Seeing, All Aware. He is Al Muhsiy, the Accounter, and Al Haseeb, the Bringer of Judgement. He is Al Muntaqim, the Avenger, Al Muqsit, the Requiter, and He is the Destroyer, Al Mumit, and Ad Darr, the Afflictor.

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He knows

As Allah azza wa jall tells us in the Holy Quran

وَلِلَّهِ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ لِيَجْزِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسَاءُوا بِمَا عَمِلُوا وَيَجْزِيَ الَّذِينَ أَحْسَنُوا بِالْحُسْنَى

And to Allah belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth – that He may recompense those who do evil with [the penalty of] what they have done and recompense those who do good with the best [reward] –

الَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَائِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَالْفَوَاحِشَ إِلَّا اللَّمَمَ ۚ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ وَاسِعُ الْمَغْفِرَةِ ۚ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِكُمْ إِذْ أَنشَأَكُم مِّنَ الْأَرْضِ وَإِذْ أَنتُمْ أَجِنَّةٌ فِي بُطُونِ أُمَّهَاتِكُمْ ۖ فَلَا تُزَكُّوا أَنفُسَكُمْ ۖ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِ اتَّقَىٰ

Those who avoid the major sins and immoralities, only [committing] slight ones. Indeed, your Lord is vast in forgiveness. He was most knowing of you when He produced you from the earth and when you were fetuses in the wombs of your mothers. So do not claim yourselves to be pure; He is most knowing of who fears Him.

Forget the ShadowHe, subhanahu wa ta’ala, Knows, and He is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.